At 17 I was immersed in â€œchurch lifeâ€, fighting with my parents and many issues at home, yet still trying to live up to the expectations that they held for me. I wasnâ€™t expected to get a college degree, I wasnâ€™t even fully expected to find a husband and start a family. Noâ€¦the expectationâ€¦the requirementâ€¦was that I would remain a steadfast, semi-fanatical, non-questioning, devout, spiritual â€œChristianâ€. Granted, I had my moments of rebellion growing up, but I never slipped out of the house late at night, I never smoked, never drank or did any drugs. The closest thing to sex was stolen kisses behind the church or a naughty late night chat session (once I finally had internet access). No, I was a good kid, as far as appearances go. I had to appear meek and devout, innocent and un-tainted.
- Thereâ€™s a growing trend young adults becoming active recruiters. The use of peer pressure and training has lead to the so-called â€œpara-ministersâ€ mostly working their way into social circles in schools and such. I’d go so far as to say a lot of these people are also quite skilled at dealing with arguments against creationism. I feel itâ€™s just sophisticated brainwashing but Iâ€™m sure you have a interesting angle on it.
- So whatâ€™s your opinion of young evangelicals today? –Revlic
- How would you categorize and/or describe your current view of religion? Non-evangelical Christian? Agnostic? Atheist? Pastafarian? Other? –Sidfaiwu
- Is your family aware of your choice to reject their beliefs? If so, how did they react when they found out and how do they treat you now? –Sidfaiwu
- Do you go through a period of deep resentment for being lied to? I know I did, and still do from time to time. –Sidfaiwu
- What does it mean for someone to be an â€œevangelicalâ€ in your mind? –Scott
- If you feel, as Sid said, that youâ€™ve been lied to, what was the lie? –Scott
- You say that youâ€™d never be part of a church again. Do you mean any church, just a Christian church, or that particular sub set of Christianity? –Scott
- When you were still, how do I say this, â€œunder the influenceâ€ of faith, what was your opinion of those who didnâ€™t believe? I oftentimes wonder just what most evangelicals actually think. I find it tough to believe that most of them are as radical as the loudest few are, and so I wonder. –Snurp
- How did others you knew react to nonbelievers/those of other faith/those â€œnot faithful enoughâ€? Did it seem like some of them really werenâ€™t that fanatic about it? –Snurp
- Did it seem like for many it was just being pushed along and a fear of alienation, or something else? Or is it really that involving? From what Iâ€™ve seen, much of it these days is about creating a virtually intoxicating experience and then trying to affect peopleâ€™s opinions under this kind of state. –Snurp
- As a former Christian, I think you can well understand the difficulties in reconciling the idea [delusion] that a loved-one is â€œdoomed to hellâ€ â€” it is because of this, Iâ€™ve continued to lead my aunts/uncles and cousins to think that Iâ€™m still Christian for over a decade. I still have difficulty with this because itâ€™s intellectually dishonest for me, but as one who used to be part of the â€œdark sideâ€, and you know as well as I do that this allows me to avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and hassle on both sides.
- What do you think of this policy?
- What have you done in your life, and your move out of your church to deal with family and friends who care and love you? –Rob
- What did your husband do for you to support you on your journey from Evangelical to where you are now? –DeusExMichael
- Do you remember if there was a specific argument or moment that made you change your mind about religion? –vk0
- Why do you think you shouldnâ€™t tell religious people they are/might be wrong? –Alcari