deletedsoul

At 17 I was immersed in “church life”, fighting with my parents and many issues at home, yet still trying to live up to the expectations that they held for me. I wasn’t expected to get a college degree, I wasn’t even fully expected to find a husband and start a family. No…the expectation…the requirement…was that I would remain a steadfast, semi-fanatical, non-questioning, devout, spiritual “Christian”. Granted, I had my moments of rebellion growing up, but I never slipped out of the house late at night, I never smoked, never drank or did any drugs. The closest thing to sex was stolen kisses behind the church or a naughty late night chat session (once I finally had internet access). No, I was a good kid, as far as appearances go. I had to appear meek and devout, innocent and un-tainted.

(Complete story here…)

–deletedsoul

QUESTIONS

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  1. There’s a growing trend young adults becoming active recruiters. The use of peer pressure and training has lead to the so-called “para-ministers” mostly working their way into social circles in schools and such. I’d go so far as to say a lot of these people are also quite skilled at dealing with arguments against creationism. I feel it’s just sophisticated brainwashing but I’m sure you have a interesting angle on it.

    - So what’s your opinion of young evangelicals today? –Revlic

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  2. How would you categorize and/or describe your current view of religion? Non-evangelical Christian? Agnostic? Atheist? Pastafarian? Other? –Sidfaiwu

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  3. Is your family aware of your choice to reject their beliefs? If so, how did they react when they found out and how do they treat you now? –Sidfaiwu

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  4. Do you go through a period of deep resentment for being lied to? I know I did, and still do from time to time. –Sidfaiwu

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  5. What does it mean for someone to be an “evangelical” in your mind? –Scott

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  6. If you feel, as Sid said, that you’ve been lied to, what was the lie? –Scott

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  7. You say that you’d never be part of a church again. Do you mean any church, just a Christian church, or that particular sub set of Christianity? –Scott

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  8. When you were still, how do I say this, “under the influence” of faith, what was your opinion of those who didn’t believe? I oftentimes wonder just what most evangelicals actually think. I find it tough to believe that most of them are as radical as the loudest few are, and so I wonder. –Snurp

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  9. How did others you knew react to nonbelievers/those of other faith/those “not faithful enough”? Did it seem like some of them really weren’t that fanatic about it? –Snurp

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  10. Did it seem like for many it was just being pushed along and a fear of alienation, or something else? Or is it really that involving? From what I’ve seen, much of it these days is about creating a virtually intoxicating experience and then trying to affect people’s opinions under this kind of state. –Snurp

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  11. As a former Christian, I think you can well understand the difficulties in reconciling the idea [delusion] that a loved-one is “doomed to hell” — it is because of this, I’ve continued to lead my aunts/uncles and cousins to think that I’m still Christian for over a decade. I still have difficulty with this because it’s intellectually dishonest for me, but as one who used to be part of the “dark side”, and you know as well as I do that this allows me to avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and hassle on both sides.

    - What do you think of this policy?
    –Rob

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  12. What have you done in your life, and your move out of your church to deal with family and friends who care and love you? –Rob

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  13. What did your husband do for you to support you on your journey from Evangelical to where you are now? –DeusExMichael

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  14. Do you remember if there was a specific argument or moment that made you change your mind about religion? –vk0

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  15. Why do you think you shouldn’t tell religious people they are/might be wrong? –Alcari

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3 Responses to “deletedsoul”

  1. Agnostic says:

    Thankyou for this, all questions and answers were a great read from a standpoint we don’t hear much about.

  2. cardsfan says:

    Wow, it was like reading something written by me. I had the same journey. I was raised Southern Baptist. I was state Bible challenge champ, and leader of my church youth group. Then as I got further into high school I started seeing things differently.

    The thing that people don’t realize is that when you’re raised in an insulated society like that there is no reason to question what you’re hearing and reading. Everyone around me belived the same thing. In my small town there wasn’t anyone who wasn’t Christian and the churches were the center of life.

    Now that I’ve moved away I’m considered the “big city liberal” black sheep of the family as a joke, but I would never even consider telling them of my athiest beliefs because of the pain that they would go through. When I one time tried to broach the subject of questioning my faith my mother called me up for weeks literally crying and trying to get me to change my mind so we could all spend eternity together in heaven. I’ve always lied since then, it’s easier on them and the rest of my family. I’d rather just bow my head when I’m there for a family meal and don’t visit on Sundays than hurt them that way.

  3. Hi there just wanted to give you a quick heads up. The text in your article seem to be running off the screen in Firefox. I’m not sure if this is a format issue or something to do with internet browser compatibility but I figured I’d post to let you know. The style and design look great though! Hope you get the issue fixed soon. Thanks

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