Question 3

QUESTION: Is your family aware of your choice to reject their beliefs? If so, how did they react when they found out and how do they treat you now? -Sidfaiwu

ANSWER: My family is aware that I no longer attend church, and that I have questioned a lot of the beliefs I once held dear. If they were to ask me point-blank how I felt about being a Christian, I would explain my views, but I chose not to broach the subject until I feel that the timing is right. –deletedsoul

6 Responses to “Question 3”

  1. sidfaiwu says:

    Thanks for your answer. My parents are quite aware that I completely rejected the religion they brought me up in, but my wife wife is in a situation similar to what you describe. It’s almost as if my wife and her parents have an unspoken “don’t ask, don’t tell” agreement. It frustrates me, but I play along to keep the peace.

  2. Rob says:

    sidfaiwu,

    it’s encouraging to see like-minded folks here. Both my wife and I are under the very same circumstance as your wife (as I posted in question 11) and deletedsoul, so there’s a lot of understanding there.

    Unlike the church that I used to attend, there is no congregation of former-churchgoers like us, though sometimes it would be nice to have one, just so that we don’t feel like we’re alone in the world, with lots of Christians bearing down on us with their beliefs.

  3. sidfaiwu says:

    Hey Rob,

    It was less of a problem for me since my side of the family is not religiously homogeneous. Much of the family is apgnostic (apathetic-gnostic: I don’t care if God exists), the rest are some form of Christian: liberal Christian, Catholic, non-denominational Christian, and conservative Christian. Also switching between the various flavors of Christianity and not caring is not uncommon. So my conversion to atheist (with respect to the Jedea-Christian-Islamic God) was not entirely without precedence.

    “there is no congregation of former-churchgoers like us, though sometimes it would be nice to have one, just so that we don’t feel like we’re alone in the world”

    Attend a Unitarian Universalist Church sometime. The one I occasionally attend is frequented by, mostly, former Christians. The topic of conversation is often how they escaped from their families’ dogma-based religion. Your type of story is quite normal.

  4. Rob says:

    Hi Sidfaiwu,

    thanks for your suggestion! I might try that sometime.

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